Thomas R. Grow, 80, Brasher Falls
Wednesday, June 1, 2011 - 9:29 am

A Mass of Resurrection for Thomas R. Grow, 80, of Brasher Falls, will be held on Saturday, with full military honors June 4, 2011 at 12:00 noon at the Church of the Sacred Heart in Massena. Friends and family may be received on Friday, June 3, 2011 from 2-4 and 7-9 p.m. at Phillips Memorial Home, 64 Andrews St. Massena. Interment will be in Calvary Cemetery.Thomas passed away Monday afternoon (May 30, 2011) at the St. Regis Nursing Home.

He is survived by his wife Martha; three sons and two daughters, Brian T. and wife Lori of Rochester, Timothy J. and wife Christina of Houston, TX, Michael G. and wife Karen of Virginia Beach, VA, Mary K. Grow of Rochester MI and Mollie T. and Carol Ainsburg of Albany; stepsons Ron and wife Terry Stickney of Norwood, Tom and wife Maureen Stickney of Montgomery; stepsons David and wife Martha Burkhalter, Jay of San Antonio,TX, and Phillip C. Burkhalter of Clifton, NJ; step daughters, Lou Anne and Rick Moser both of Massena, Cynthia and husband Tom Penn of Massena, and Monica and husband Rich Seebode of Delmar; five grandchildren; and a sister, Helene Parry of Rochester.

Thomas was preceded in death by brothers Dawson, Paul and Harry Grow.

Thomas was born December 8, 1930 in Helena, the son of Harold and Maria (Dawson) Grow. Thomas graduated from the New York State Ranger School 1951 and the University of Michigan in 1954. He served in the US Army from 1954 to 1956. He married Elizabeth “Betty” O’Brien July 10, 1954 at St. Patrick's Church, Brasher Falls; she predeceased him on June 23, 1985. He married Amelia (D’Arienzo) Burkhalter June 30, 1986 at the Church of the Sacred Heart; she predeceased him on April 4, 1991. He later married Martha Stevens Stickney September 3, 1994 at the Church of the Sacred Heart.Mr.Grow had worked at C.T. Main Consulting Engineers for two years and for eight years he was employed at the St. Lawrence County Highway Department in surveying and construction prior to being employed at NYS Power Authority .Tom retired as Project Manager of Safety and Fire Protection. Tom also was involved in surveying Calvary Cemetery in its expansion phase.

He was a member of the American Legion Post # 79 ,the Knights of Columbus Council # 1141.The Knights of Columbus Council # 1141 will hold memorial services Friday at 7:15 p.m. at the funeral home. The American Legion Post # 79 will hold services at 7:30 p.m. Friday at the funeral home.

Tom was one of the originating founders of the St. Vincent DePaul Society here in Massena. Tom enjoyed traveling spending time with his large extended family. At the family's request memorials may be made to Trinity Catholic Endowment Fund, St. Vincent dePaul Society or any one of Massenas’ Food Banks. On line condolences may made