OGDENSBURG -- Bomette “Bonnie” Carney Shine age 75 passed away at home with family following a courageous battle with lung cancer and COPD. Bonnie was predeceased by her husband, Lt. Col. Anthony C. Shine (May 20, 1939 – Dec 2, 1972 ) and her longtime companion Clifford A. Butterfield (Sept 25, 1943 – Dec 7, 2015). She was also predeceased by her father Joseph Carney and mother Margaret Young Carney, her sister Margaret Edith Carney and her brother Joseph Carney. Bonnie is survived by her three children, Anthony W. Shine (Collette), Colleen C. Shine, and Shannon C. Shine (Ellen) and her brothers Michael Carney (Donna), David Carney (Gisele), Wayne Carney (Patty) and Kevin Carney (Michelle).
Born Bomette Margo Carney on October 7, 1942 in Ogdensburg, NY Bonnie attended grade school in Pope Mills, NY and graduated from Morristown Central School in 1959. Following her marriage to Tony (Pleasantville, NY) in 1960, Bonnie traveled far and wide as a military wife, setting up homes, raising children, studying and often working. After Tony was listed as Missing in Action in Vietnam, Bonnie moved the family to Chapel Hill, NC and completed her B.S. degree from UNC.
She returned to Myrtle Beach, SC for 20 years, working as an advertising executive with Coast magazine and in real estate. After the destruction of her home in Hurricane Hugo in 1989, Bonnie persevered and rebuilt. Always up for a challenge, she also ran the Miss B. Haven (Miscue) lounge – at the time the largest female managed nightclub south of the Mason Dixon line. Later, Bonnie and Clifford enjoyed nearly 25 years of companionship in Black Lake, NY – dairy farming, building and grand-parenting together.
In addition to raising her children, her professional accomplishments and her deep friendships, Bonnie made significant and enduring contributions to our nation’s military and veterans and their families, as well as on behalf of abused women and children. She advocated for the National League of POW/MIA Families, established the United States Air Force annual fighter pilot Top Gun Award, the Lt. Col. Anthony C. Shine Award, which recognizes piloting skill and character and community service. She authored a guide for the spouses of today’s military casualties for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors. She also co-established Citizens Against Spouse Abuse (CASA) in Mrytle Beach, SC and secured donation of a home and land to rehabilitate battered women and children.
Bonnie leaves behind a legacy in the many lives of family and friends she has influenced. We all learned from her and embrace and remember her insatiable curiosity, love of “grand adventures”, prolific flower gardens, penchant for over the top construction projects, eye for nature’s beauty captured in her own oil paintings, her sage and incisive no holds barred advice, stories of adventures in days gone by, her varied and detailed hand-crafted quilts and clothing and her voracious love of reading. Mostly we will cherish her fierce love for those dear to her.
The Shine Family expresses gratitude for the many expressions of love and support through Bonnie’s illness and passing – prayers, meals, bouquets, cards, visits and Memorials in her honor to causes she believed in. Bonnie’s remains will be interred at Arlington National Cemetery at a date TBD. The Family invites family and friends to join in her Memorial Service on July 7 from 11:30-2pm at the Brier Hill Fire Hall.
Memorial Contributions The National League of POW/MIA , Families, 5673 Columbia Pike, Suite 100, Falls Church, VA 22041,www.pow-miafamilies.org; Morristown Public Library, 200 Main St. Morristown, NY 13664, www.morristownpubliclibrary.org; St. Lawrence Valley Renewal House, 3 Chapel Street, Canton, NY 13617, www.slvrenewalhouse.org;